Agle janam Mohe Bitiya hee Keejo

"Agle janam Mohe Bitiya na Keejo"......this is a song or just a line for many of us but for few women, girls this is the reality of their life. Each and every day of their life they might be cursing the God for making them a girl.
In our country there are still so many horrible things which are not eradicated yet. Like girl fetus slaughter and prostitution. But in a way its better to kill the girls as a fetus itself instead of pushing them into a hell called brothel.
The prostitution system is nothing new to us. It has been followed for a very long time before they were called tawaifs who were talented singers, dancers and poets.
 But not only the girls who are pushed into these kind of professions but in many houses women who are leading a very happy life as per the SOCIETY are also singing the same song. In brothels the women are exploited and tortured by outsiders but for many women, are tortured mentally by there own people whom she would come to leaving each and every person who has been important to her from the day of her birth. We leave our friends and family suddenly in a day and are expected to accept some stranger family as ours and love them, trust them and serve them. But in return how many of us are getting it back.
 though many houses might seem very sophisticated happy homes but what is hidden behind those sophistication only the woman of the house will know.
 I have had many friends who have undergone this torture and few are still going through this. Why is it that only we women are the sufferers or why is it that all the sacrifices for the family is expected from us only. There are many WHYs which has no answers.
Sadly our media which has to educate people about the postiveness, is preaching only negative things. Switch on to any soap opera you can just find some crying female, dominating husbands and in-laws. Cannot we show some equality and educate people instead of showing things like these stupid Saas - Bahu soap operas.
These soap operas have very bad impact on people, and I am sharing this today because I have seen the impact that these has on people.

When are we going to change the song line into "Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Hee Keejo" ???? This is a big question mark in our life.

Relationship

Many of us will meet a person by whom we are very much impressed. we listen to his/her advice or take their suggestion for everything that we do. We might also say that we are very well connected to that person.

But how many of us stop there. Many a times we forget who we are and try to become that person that we forget to connect with our self. We are very happy to announce that we share every thoughts of ours with an other person. But how many of our thoughts do we share it with our self. How much do we know about our self.
 What I am sharing on this blog is  my own experience. All these years I always thought that I am very close to my sister with whom I am able to share everything. But i never realized that I was totally a stranger to myself. I was behaving with different people differently. That is, in the way they wanted me to behave. I this circus I forgotten the original me. Whom I am searching desperately now but sadly it will take a lot of time and energy to find me.
 It is a very sad condition or a horrible condition for one to be in where they have lost them self or forgotten themselves. Thankfully for me I have beautiful people in my life who made me realized that i have lost the original me that is, the originality in me. I was fortunate enough to find it out at least now. I had become so duplicate that now i am realizing that many things that i have been doing had no originality at all and i have been copying from any person with whom i would have been impressed due to which i have lost the entity that is me. Now i am on the quest of searching myself.
 For me the real journey has started now. Of course it is not an easy path. There are lot of turmoils that are going on inside my mind and also lot of tugs that are going on with the people around me. But I have come to a realization that we cannot achieve anything without a struggle.
I am putting all these things into writing today because I don't want this realization to go away from me. This write should always remind me that i am in a quest to find my self.

Thanks to people who noticed this and set me on the write path.

Before we relate with others we should relate to our selfs.